Husbands, Love Your Wives

 


I have read and seen a lot recently about the Biblical relationship between husbands and wives, and I often feel like the people who have a lot to say are too selective in their choice of verses to quote. Too often, I have seen people quote from Ephesians 5, but only use verses 22 through 24--the verses that tell women that they are to submit to their husbands in everything--and stop there. If those are the only verses you reference to talk about the subject of marriage, then I pray that you never get married.

To be completely frank, men who only reference verses 22 - 24 disgust me. For me, the only verse I need to remember is verse 25. My job as a husband is not to be Angie's boss. My job is to love her and to give myself for her. Since 2:30 p.m. on October 19, 2002, the goal of every decision I have made should be to do what is best for Angie.

I want to be the first to admit that I have failed in that goal on numerous occasions, but even there, I will say there have been times where I have not only been selfish, but I have also refused to admit it. I am sorry for the times when I have not put Angie first, and I beg forgiveness from both her and God for those times. Worst of all is knowing that I am sure I will do it again.

In my mind, the important thing about this entire passage in Ephesians is that the two sides have to work together. If I am not loving Angie like Christ loves the church, then why should she be bound to submit to me? On the other hand, if I give myself for her in everything I do, then why would she not want to submit? My role as a husband and father is to love my family sacrificially, and the entire hierarchy hinges on me. When I submit to God first, my behaviors and decisions will always be what is best for my wife and children. When I choose what is best for my family, they can willingly submit to God's plan with me.

Heavenly Father, Some days, it's easy for me to put Angie and the kids ahead of me. Other days, I am either too blind or stupid or stubborn to see that I am putting my wants before them. And on other days, I am totally confused about what to do. On every one of those days, Lord, I pray that you guide me to follow you first, knowing that you want what's best for all of us. Thank you for loving all of us so much that you gave yourself for us, and I pray that you give me that same sacrificial spirit. In the saving name of Jesus I pray, Amen.

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